The Daily News Of The Virgin Islands

Advice to the Lovelorn

By Beatrice Fairfax

(Authority on Problems of Love and Marriage)

Dear Beatrice Fairfax:

I'm 20 years old and very fond of a fellow who is 21. We've been going out together quite awhile and both of us seem to find each others companionship very enjoyable.

The only thing that bothers me about our relationship is that any time we're alone together or in his car he wants to spend a lot of time kissing me very hard.

Do you think this is wrong of him and I should tell him so or should I just take it that he's falling in love with me and so it's perfectly all right?

- S.S.

Dear S.S.:

It sounds to me as though this kissing business is already "perfectly all right" with you,

but my idea is that, instead of taking it for granted that the young man is falling in love with you and so entitled to be as informal—shall we say?—as he pleases,

you are well advised to hold on to this kissing until he has come right out and asked you to marry him. And, even then, I'd suggest that you use a reasonable degree of caution in any demonstrations or affection to avoid running the risk of their getting out of hand.

The young man sounds to me a bit over-impetuous right now.

As for yourself, you seem somewhat naive for a young woman 20 years old. Surely you've been around long enough to be well aware that too much ardent kissing not only can, but all too often does, lead to trouble.

So I advise you to be definitely on the conservative side at present. A light and quick good-night kiss when you and the young man are parting after an evening date is one thing. But to go in for that "parked car" kissing or petting "a lot of times,"

or kissing any time you're alone together, as you say the young man wants to do, is definitely something else again.

So hold the line! If it's really you and not just your kisses that the boyfriend is interested in,

he'll get the point and act accordingly.

WHY NOT EARN MONEY AT HOME?

Dear Beatrice Fairfax:

I'm a wife whose husband refuses to give me any spending money except just what I need for our meals. He says the man of the house should handle everything.

The trouble is that he often doesn't handle things like paying bills, and I was brought up to pay anything I owed very promptly, so this keeps me very unhappy. I don't know what he does with all the money he makes,

because he never tells me. I'd like to get some sort of job that would give me money of my own, but he says he doesn't want me to work.

Is there any solution for a problem like this?

Mrs. E.K.

Dear Mrs. E.K.:

Under such circumstances, I'd say you had a perfect right to go to work and earn money for your personal needs, and also to have something you could use for bills when you felt they should be taken care of.

Of course it's your husband's job to keep the bills paid, but it would be much simpler if you just went ahead and paid them instead of arguing and quarreling with him about it.

Why don't you try to find some work you could do at home?

There are plenty of women who have financial problems but, for one reason or another, find it impractical to take an outside job and I can't see any reason why you couldn't do this, too.

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If you'd like to have a list of full suggestions on just how to go about it, write me again, enclosing a stamped, self-addressed envelope, and I'll be glad to send it to you.